Friends, if you have followed me on Instagram this past week, you know that our little site was hacked! Initially it sent me into a panic (mainly because Alex was away, I was home alone with three kids and I needed to make phone-calls and clean the mess up fast!) However, once I took a step back, God was gracious with me and gave me a peace that only comes from Him! The site is now clean and my heart rejoices because through this “trial” I was able to learn a few things and to grow as a blogger and deepen my faith!
Three things I learned from my site being hacked.
Everything happens for a reason- Seriously. I say this ALL the time but do I really believe it? The answer is yes! Romans 8:28 says “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” What’s the exact reason my website was hacked? That I can’t answer, but I can say that this trial gave me the opportunity to connect with a few online friends as well as learn a few things about properly protecting my site. The hack could have been worse. There could have been bigger consequences. My site being hacked raised up a flag for me and led me to educate myself on properly protecting this website.
Prayer changes your perspective– It’s easy for me to feel like a victim. In this case, my website was hacked and someone out there was actively harming my little space of the internet. However, when I take a look at the bigger picture, I can see that there is a soul out there who is doing harmful things because he/she is in need of Jesus. So, I can either be angry at them or PRAY and ask God to have mercy on them. Maybe no one has ever prayed for them before, maybe God is allowing me to have a small impact on their salvation story. Not sure. But man I prayed for the hackers and for the people who are searching for very sinful things in the internet. I asked God to save their souls and thanked Him for an opportunity to really pray for someone I would have never thought to pray for.
Be on guard- I wouldn’t say I’m naive to the fact that sinful people do sinful things on the internet, but I’m usually one of those people who say “I never thought this would happen to me!” I honestly never thought someone would want to hack a little ol’ family website, but they did. This incident has taught me to protect myself and my children and to ask God for wisdom when it comes to sharing on the internet, and protecting my family on the internet.
Also, this is what I did to fix the problem:
Contact your hosting provider– My hosting provider referred me to a website security company that talked me through the steps I needed to take. I ended up going with a security company that best fit my budget, but that initial call helped me understand what was happening and what steps I needed to take to fix the problem.
The security company cleaned up the malware and asked me to do the following:
update all content management system to the latest version
update my website plugins
change ALL my passwords
restore from backup (I never backed up my site, but if I did, this would have solved the issue)
scan my computer
re-submit your website to google
re-sumbmi your sitemap to google
set up a firewall
This could have been prevented had I updated my plugins. I ignored the notifications for updates and that’s how the spammers found their way in. Go figure!
Oh my friends, I am praying for you today. For your websites and for His peace and mercy to be with you!
We’re just coming out of a 17 day stretch with Alex being gone and the kids and I cranking it out at home. They were tough days. Long days. Some days ended with wine and tears and some with laughter and pillow fights. I wish I could say it’s over but it’s only a matter of time before he ships off again. Today I’m thanking God for these past 17 days. We made it.
My parents spent a lot of time here with me. They have always been my constant. It doesn’t matter where we are in life, they always come to the rescue and this time around they didn’t disappoint. As soon as they heard that Alex was going to be gone for an extended time, they moved right into our third bedroom. I wonder what life will be like without them near to us. I’m not looking forward to finding myself in need of them and knowing that for the first time ever, they won’t be there.
Emory is not sleeping through the night. I tried forcing her a couple of nights ago and it ended up with a puke fest that quickly turned into me saying “that’s it, you’re sleeping next to me until you’re 15!” She’s such a good girl and she’s our last so part of me wants to hold on to the dependency aspect of our relationship a little longer than I did with the older two. I’m pretty sure she’ll be the child who has to sleep train me!
Our Nebraska home is almost ready for us. I can’t believe we’ll get to live in such a beautiful place. I shared a bedroom with my three brothers until I turned 15. It’s such a surreal feeling to be able to provide for your kids things that we never had or dreamt of growing up, like their own room!
I’ve been binge watching the hallmark channel (online because we don’t have cable) and my Christmas spirit is bursting within me. We arrive at NE on the 7th of Dec but our things to get up there until the 15th giving us only 10 days of Christmas.
I’m pretty sure I tore some sort of ligament or tendon in my ankle. I injured it about three months ago and I can’t seem to shake the pain away. I’ve never feared seeing a Dr. before because I know the diagnosis is going to make me rest and this is not a season for rest. Maybe it’ll be forced rest. Maybe it’s for the best.
We’re going to my in laws home for Thanksgiving. I’m in charge of a dessert and drinks. I’ll be poaching some pears and making sangria! We requested cuban food for Thanksgiving because we have no idea when we’ll get to have real Cuban food again so we’ll indulge in our ultimate comfort food.
Thinking about this verse. Give thanks in all circumstances for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you… this season we’re in, our health struggles, our parenting, our new Nebraska chapter, these are all things that He willed for us. These are things that our in our lives for a purpose and we are to give thanks in all of these circumstances. So humbling. Also, so much peace comes from knowing that He is sovereign and has plans to prosper and not harm us, plans to give us hope and a future (Jeremiah 9:11) I am so thankful for that. For His will and for His plan.
We are all judged in one way or another and we are all guilty of judging other moms because they don’t parent the way we do. The first time I felt the impact of mommy-wars was when Alex and I decided to induce Grace’s labor. We were are 39 weeks and I had exactly two weeks of spring break to have her and head right back to my second semester of nursing school. At the time, and given our circumstances, it was the best decision for our family. Needless to say other moms were not thrilled about the idea and made their points known without regards for our fragile state and our decision.
For me, the mommy-wars continued on when it came down to our decision to formula feed Grace vs. breast feed her. Although I do believe that under perfect circumstances breastfeeding is the best option, at the time, it was not something we could do. I was in school all day long and pumping at 6pm while trying to cook dinner and cramming for my next big test left me with no time to spend with my little girl and my hubby. So, we opted for the next best option and looking back, it was a great decision.
Although I have been on the receiving side of the mommy-wars, I am also guilty of doing the judging. I know I didn’t believe it either… but it’s true. I’ve said things like “you let your kid eat those crackers off the floor?” or “You’re still breastfeeding your two year old?” or my favorite “Why isn’t your three year old potty trained?” and I’ve given plenty of judgy side-looks when seeing kids roll around the church floor or worse walking barefoot! eeww…
Daily balance is something that I struggle with. As a mother of two (soon to be three) with a nursing job, a brand-new fixer-upper, and a schedule that is nowhere near predictable, balance has proven to be extremely difficult.
I’ve realized that when I allow distractions to find their way in, my stress level rises and I turn away from what’s really important.
After much trial and error, I’ve been able to hone in on my top 6 priorities. Writing them down, allow me to focus on what’s important and keep me distraction-free.
I think everyone’s priorities vary slightly, but what has helped keep me on track, is to jot down the non-negotiables and place them in order of what’s most important to least. In my case, all of these are super duper important and if I don’t tackle each IN THIS ORDER (or as close to it as I possibly can) my day doesn’t seem to click.
I keep the list simple and it looks something like this:
Prayer time/studying of the word – This is my number one priority. Somedays, I am able to sip some coffee while I study, pray and sing and some days I pause for a one minute prayer. Whatever the case, spending time in the word and in prayer sets the tone for my day.
Marriage- Other than my relationship with God, my relationship with Alex is my top priority. I do my best at making sure that Alex and I are communicating effectively and that I’m showing him that I love him through acts of service. My friend Betty calls it “marriage bliss” and if we don’t have that intimate connection to one another, our home doesn’t function well.
Children– Raising Godly children is my calling and it’s one I take very seriously. Am I teaching Grace and Haddon God’s word? Am I teaching them how to love God? Am I being a good example to them? Are they making a difference in the kingdom?
Work– I am a nurse. I usually work at a hospital 3 days a week and although I love my profession, it’s not something I see myself doing for much longer. For that reason, I find it very difficult to pour my heart and energy into improving my skills and knowledge in the field. I place my job on my master list, because I believe that as Christians, we should be an example in the workplace by working as onto God rather than men (Colossians 3:23)
Home– Vacuuming, dusting, laundry, dishes, DIY reno projects… there is something always to do at home. My priority is not to try and get it ALL done, but to tackle what needs to be done now.For example, are our uniforms ready for the next day? Do the kids have clean clothes? Is there mold growing around our tub? Do I need to restock my fridge? Did the dog go out? etc. I don’t believe that we should allow dirty clothes or dishes to pile up for weeks at a time, but I do think that everything needs to be placed on a scale and that sometimes it’s ok if if the clothes is clean and it’s sitting on my bed for a couple of days before I get around to folding it.
Blogging– This is my outlet. My opportunity to be creative and to express myself. However, most importantly, it’s a platform that I have been given to show others Christ. My priority is to use this platform to be a blessing to others rather than to ramble about my day (which I sometimes do)
Throw in there doctor appointments, work emergencies, diaper explosions at target, doggy throw up, and you have yourself my typical day. I’m sure you have your own list of crazy “typical day” examples. The good news is that regardless of what’s thrown your way, if your top priority is always finding time to focus on Christ and on His word, finding balance will just be a matter of perspective.
Also, I like to meditate (think about, repeat in my head, throughout my day) specific verses that help keep me focused.
Psalm 19:14 let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.
Joshua 24:15 … Choose this day whom you will serve… But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord
Psalm 127:3 Children are a gift from the Lord
Psalm 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me
Isaiah 40:31 But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint
Colossians 3:23 whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters
Matthew 11:28 Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.For my yoke is easy and my burden is light
Matthew 25:23 His master replied, well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your masters happiness!
Oh dear mama, I hope you find a little encouragement in this post. Balance comes and goes, but your heart and spirit are eternal and His love and grace which is extended to you will carry you through all of the explosive diapers, temper tantrums, crazy work schedule and sleepless nights.